July 20, 2014

Parade Day - and a RFD

Yesterday was our local summer festival parade.  Cora and I belong to a club (not related to the FLR thing we do) and we represent the club in the parade.  We have a 21 year old Corvette and we place banners for the club on the doors and Cora rides in the back dancing to summertime music we blast from the sound system mounted on the luggage rack.  This year we had a full marching band behind us but based on comments from those in the audience there was no trouble for them hearing our music.  All in all its one of the highlights for us in the summer and its great fun.
Cora in last year's parade Rockin' out to the music
I think I have mentioned my fascination with women's panties, and Cora's in particular.  Its something that many of us naughty males seem to have in common.  Well, yesterday I thought I'd have a little fun with Cora and wore a pair of her panties while in the parade.
Prior to leaving the house I filled out a 'Request for Discipline' form.  I think its self-explanatory. Once we reached the staging area for the parade and I did one last round of polishing the car, the chaos finally subsided. I then reached into the glove box and pulled out the notice I had earlier filled out and handed it to Cora.

So far I haven't been held accountable as Cora is still recovering from her dancing marathon.  But I'm guessing she will be beckoning me to her lap, soon.  Oh, and its also my day for a maintenance spanking.  I'll let you know.

July 11, 2014

A Magickal Afternoon at Salty's

Cora and I represent a local club (not related to our FLR thing) in our local summer festival parade.  This year the parade will occur on July 19 and we have been getting preparations in order for a week now.  For example I took our car into the shop for annual service to make sure its running fine.

And yesterday Cora wanted to make a trial run of what she plans to wear.  Just to make sure everything fits and to make whatever adjustments are necessary.  For this year's parade she purchased a dress that nicely matches the color of our car.  Color coordinated she will be including her 4 inch high heels that match the car.

Cora Showing Off a Little Cheek
The Duck at Salty's























So we decided to make a 'trial run' to our favorite local restaurant for lunch.  Cora got all dressed up in everything she plans to wear during the parade and I would be able to make sure our 'Fuel Injected Stingray' would be ready to perform.
Cora On Her Way Up the Stairs
I Couldn't Resist the 'Photo Op'
Me Getting Caught Taking Advantage of the 'Photo Op'
Wonder if She'll Pull Out One of Her Notices?

Cora and I have been visiting Salty's for many years including the evening of our wedding, and have never had a bad experience.  Indeed the staff are very friendly and the interaction is great fun.
Seattle's Best View
Yesterday was no exception.  Our server was a woman who attended to our initial needs in the usual efficient and professional manner and soon Cora had her Gin and 7-UP.  We then dived into their summer menu (Salmon was featured!) to make our lunch selection.  As the afternoon progressed, we got to know our server a bit better and shared our story of why we were having lunch as a way to test out Cora's outfit and to make sure the car was running fine.  The conversations progressed and we discussed our holiday light display.  She seemed quite engaged and more that what you might expect from someone attending to us.  There obviously was something that just seemed to click between us.
Cora Getting Ready to Order Lunch
I think it may have been when we talked about having dinner at Salty's after our wedding that we began to share how we have adopted a Female Led Relationship lifestyle.  Both Cora and I could tell that she was more than just interested.  All the while maintaining her professional demeanor, she began asking questions and we finally shared the full story of our wedding including the ceremonial pass of the hairbrush (the symbol of a woman's power, as we explained) from the minister to Cora followed by my first spanking as her husband.  One thing she confessed was that this approach might be a way to 'spice up' the relationship with her husband.
Cora's 'Business' Card
We ended up giving her one of Cora's business cards.  These depict a picture of Cora beckoning me to her side in preparation for the first spanking of our marriage.  The URL of this blog appears on the card and we thought these cards would be great to pass out to people that we felt might be interested in what we do.  So far we haven't passed out very many but this seemed like a perfect opportunity to share one with our hostess.  And to top things off, Cora pulled out of of her (famous) Notice of Discipline forms and gave it to her, too.  Smiling, she indicated that upon return to her home she would be opening up her computer to check out our blog.  And the last conversation we had with her was that we felt a story had developed that we would like to share on our blog.  She consented to sharing our story without hesitation.

One thing that Cora and I have attempted to do is to share what we believe are the benefits of a Female Led Relationship.  We have no intent to 'force' it on anyone and we totally understand that its not for everyone.  So we have opened up our blog and have met many of you in the 'virtual' world of the Internet but have sadly not met many people face to face.  But today was a time that it just seemed right to share and who knows, perhaps a relationship might just develop.  I can just see Cora 'training' her in the implementation of a Female Led Relationship which could introduce some very interesting energy into their relationship.

July 10, 2014

Yesterday was Wednesday

... and was the designated day for my 'Maintenance Spanking'.  We found that Wednesday just didn't work very well as our routine during weekdays seemed to interfere with me getting spanked.  So we sat down and discussed this and other things.  The result was to change the designated day to Sunday.

Way back in February, 2009 Cora and I drew up a 'contract'.  Our contract was rather simple and was modified from one of Dorothy Spencer's 'Spanking Plans'.  Ms. Spencer was certainly ahead of her time when she advocated spanking as a way to settle disputes between couples in the early 1930's.  There is lots and lots of information available on the net regarding this plan including the actual text of the plan which advocates spankings to both the wife and husband.  Ours is a modification that only addresses Cora spanking me.

We we opened up our discussion I thought that perhaps a revisit to our contract would be in order.  However, due to its simplicity I thought that just amending it would be all that was needed.  Cora agreed and we ended up with three amendments.  The first one spelled out some definitions of our 'Notice of Discipline' form and how it should be applied.  I'll share the text of that part in a future post.  The second amendment applied to our weekly Maintenance Spanking.  Here is the text of that amendment:

Amendment II.  Maintenance Spankings

It is agreed that weekly spankings would solidify the respective rolls of the Disciplinarian Wife and the Disciplined Husband.  These spankings will be referred to as Maintenance Spankings.

A. Maintenance Spankings should be carried out each week on a designated day (Sunday).  They should not be postponed unless there are above normal circumstances that prevent them from happening.  When such delay occurs they should be re-scheduled as soon as possible.

B. Maintenance Spankings will be administered as Over-The-Knee (OTK) spankings with the appropriate OTK implement such as the Ebony Hairbrush, OTK Spanking Paddle or any other implement that is suitable for the OTK position.

C. For instances where the Disciplined Husband's behavior has been less than acceptable, the OTK spanking will be followed by a session with the Disciplinarian Wife's paddle.  The Disciplined Husband will assume a bent over position as directed by the Disciplinarian Wife who will choose one or more implements suitable for the administering of a good, hard paddling.

D. The OTK portion of the Maintenance Spanking shall be no less than five minutes but she is encouraged to administer her Hairbrush or other implement(s) as long as she sees fit.

E. For instances where the OTK spanking is to be followed by a paddling session, the number of swats shall be no less than six.  However, the Disciplinarian Wife is encouraged to administer as many swats as she may deem necessary.


Please note that the above is just something that Cora and I worked out and may or not apply to anyone else.  However we did want to share the specifics of what we came up with.

As was mentioned in an earlier post, I was paddled Saturday morning and paddled rather hard.  So I was a little surprised that on Sunday, Cora beckoned me to come to her for my weekly Maintenance Spanking.  I was still feeling the impact of my Saturday morning paddling but who was I to question her authority???
Like it or not you're getting a Spanking!
This time Cora decided that she would utilize our couch for my spanking.  She wanted both of us to be comfortable(!)  So, over her lap I went.
Her Lap Awaits
I might mention that Cora now has no less than three (3) Ebony Hairbrushes.  The first one I purchased for her has a slight concave surface and really can deliver a stingy smack and does so with a rather pronounced cracking sound.  The second one has a convex surface and is quite thuddy and does not impact with much of a sound.  The third Ebony Hairbrush also has a concave surface and is very similar to the first one I purchased for her but has slightly different dimensions and is a full ounce heavier.  So, Cora wanted to compare number one and number three.
Get Ready!
Lining up the two Ebony beauties, Cora began her comparison.  (Note that the attached photos are from our archives and the hairbrushes pictured are not the Ebonies.  We hope to photograph them soon.)  I felt the familiar impact of her Ebony Hairbrushes and she did not start with a warm up.  I think she wanted to get down to the business of her comparison.

Naturally, I was feeling the sting of the impact on my recently paddled bottom.  But in the interest of science I hung in there enduring Cora's spanking.  She switched back and forth and I could tell slight differences but the sound of their impact was almost identical.  Soon I was feeling like a well spanked, naughty boy.
Getting Spanked with Cora's Ebony Hairbrush
Cora continued.  Now, remember that we are in the post Ms. Francy period and Cora no longer modulates her spankings.  In fact at one point she mentioned that she was drawing a little blood.  Yes, I was getting a real blistering spanking.  But unlike previous times, Cora did not let the appearance of a blister deter her from continuing.
The Result of a Spanking from Cora is Much Different Now!
On she went until I think she was exhausted.  She checked the clock and much to the surprise of both of us a full thirteen minutes had elapsed since she began.  As I write this (four days later), I can still feel a dull pain in my bottom and there are still marks.  So finally, I feel like I have received a good, hard spanking that I have felt I not only deserved but needed.  And Cora was delighted at the result and has been literally glowing (in her own way!) ever since.  And she has hinted that I need another spanking today.  Why?  Because she feels like it.

July 5, 2014

I Got Paddled This Morning

We men can be such naughty boys.  I know from some of the things I have seen on other sites and e-Mails I get from some of you, that we do have lots in common.  Like the things we do when surfing the web.

Well, I got 'caught' this morning.  'Red-Handed', so to speak.  There was no hiding it when Cora took things in hand.  So to speak!

Now, Cora is really OK with those kinds of my activity.  Really.  However, I have asked her to administer an immediate paddling when she does 'catch' me.  Its partly role-play and partly serious.
Cora's Spencer Paddle
So I offered my naughty backside to her by bending over one of our kitchen chairs after placing her Spencer paddle in a handy place for her to pick it up.  At the time I was wearing a thick robe and I pulled up the bottom part over my back which presented my bare bottom for Cora to attend to.
Me Getting Previously Paddled with Cora's Spencer
She Paddles Harder Now.  Much Harder!
And Attend to it, she did.  Since Cora read Ms. Francy's books ('Spanking the Male Mind' and 'How to Spank Your Man', both of which we highly recommend) Cora has been spanking me much harder. And this morning was no exception.  She really laid into me with that Spencer Paddle.  She was swinging it hard enough that I could hear the whistle the paddle makes just before landing on my naughty bottom.  And I heard lots and lots of those whistles as she paddled me much longer that I expected.
Cora Has Lots of Choices When She Decides to Paddle
When she finally stopped with her Spencer Paddle, I remained in place, expecting her to give me the OK to get up.  She didn't.  Instead she placed the Spencer Paddle back on the rack and then grabbed her PurpleHeart Paddle.  Its been a while since she paddled me with her PurpleHeart Paddle but again, she laid into me with quite a bit of vigor.  The PurpleHeart Paddle is a little heavier than the Spencer Paddle and it was delivering quite a combination of 'thud' and 'sting'.  I was definitely getting a naughty boy paddling.  Again, Cora delivered a much longer paddling than I expected.
The PurpleHeart is one of Cora's Favorites
Can You Tell?
And again, when she finally stopped with her PurpleHeart Paddle and put it back on the rack, I remained in place expecting her to release me right away.  But NO!  Cora had other ideas.  Instead she reached for the biggest paddle on the rack: the OAR!
Bend Over This Chair
I'm Going to Paddle You with This!
A post on April 21, 2011 describes how we acquired this huge paddle.  We were shopping at one of the local craft stores and Cora noticed it displayed with other unfinished wood items.  It was a rather interesting shopping experience, especially when Cora made me bend over so that she could try it out.  I had been directed to the area of the store where we found the paddle by one of the clerks in the store who had asked if I need help finding something.  I was looking for shellac and she thought in might be near where the unfinished wood items were displayed.  As we were leaving the unfinished wood display, we encountered the same woman who had suggested I look for shellac where the wood items were located.  "Did you find what you were looking for?", she asked.  Cora immediately spoke up and said, "Well no, but I did find this".  Cora then reached into our basket and pulled out the large paddle then said,  "I think I can make good use of it!".  Cora then complemented her on the stores inventory indicating that, "you have lots of useful items in this store".  The employee blushed noticeably but had a knowing grin, too.

So with her big, huge paddle in hand, Cora continued my punishment.  Again, I got paddled much longer than I expected.  The result being a bright red bottom that still seems to be emitting quite a glow.  I am certainly feeling the effects as I am writing this.  And I know Cora really enjoyed punishing me for being the 'naughty' boy that I was.  And partly thanks to Ms. Francy, what I got was a good, hard and long paddling.

July 2, 2014

Notice of Discipline - Results

I have mentioned how much fun we have had with our little 'Notice of Discipline' form and how I have made them available to anyone who has asked for them.  Well one of the naughty boys who reads our blog made just such a request and shared his results.
Above is a scan of one of the forms that was used by a lady who subsequently spanked him.  The names of the 'Delinquent' and 'Mistress in Charge' have been scrubbed out (to protect the guilty?) at his request.

And he also sent a couple of pictures of his disciplinary spanking and gave me permission to post them.  As you can see he got his bottom reddened quite nicely in the classic 'leg locked' position as she indicated on the form.


Its really nice to see the result of the use of one of our forms.  Thanks to you for sharing.

And our offer still stands.  If you want a copy of the form in the original MicroSoft form just send us a request via e-Mail.

June 29, 2014

Research


As much as we make an attempt to keep our Female Led Relationship energized including spankings at regular intervals, it just seems like life gets in the way.  So our intended Wednesday maintenance spanking plans sort of faded into the sunset.  I can't even remember when I received last Wednesday spanking.  Probably something like 3 or maybe even four weeks ago.  In any event it just wasn't working.

Recently there has been some interesting activity from some of you with regard to our Notice of Discipline forms.  There was a surge of requests and I sent out over a half dozen to you.  (And my offer still applies: if you want a copy in MicroSoft Word format, just drop us an e-Mail).  I even received a copy of one of the forms that was filled out along with a few pictures of his bottom after receiving a spanking following the filling out of one of the forms.  I plan to share those with the group hopefully in the near future.

So I started thinking about the form and also about our maintenance spankings.  Probably dangerous!

Over five years ago Cora and signed a contract that deals with our relative disciplinary positions.  Its basically a modified 'Spencer Spanking Plan' contract that basically states that Cora has permission to spank me along with a responsibility to spank me.  This contract was set up before we 'invented' our Notice of Discipline form.

I thought it might make sense to make an amendment to our contract.  Not a complete revision as it still applies in its current form, but amendments that will address some of the aspects of the forms.  For example, sometimes Cora will issue a form and then not execute the appointed discipline.  This happens for many reasons often just because other priorities arise.  So I thought that our forms should have an expiration. What I came up with was a time period of 3 days (72 hours).  The form becomes null and void after the expiration of 72 hours.  Now, if Cora still believes I should be disciplined, she has the ability to re-issue the Notice of Discipline but it now will have a new time and date that the discipline will be administered.

I also addressed the part of the form that indicates 'mild', 'moderate' and 'severe'.  I came up with the idea that if the 'spanking' box is checked, an assignment of 'mild' discipline would be five minutes over her knee with a spanking from her Hairbrush, OTK Spanking Paddle, or any other implement appropriate for an Over-The-Knee spanking.  Likewise, a 'moderate' spanking would be ten minutes and a 'severe' spanking would be fifteen minutes.  We have that really nice five minute 'hourglass' that we obtained from the good folks at Cane-Iac and thought that Cora could turn it over the appropriate number of times.

I have nearly completed the amendments to our contract to address the Notice of Discipline forms and have also been working on some thoughts that I plan to add as amendments to address our Maintenance Spanking schedule including changing the day to Sunday.

Since this is Sunday, I asked Cora if she was up for some research into the idea of a Sunday spanking and also how a five minute session of OTK spanking from her Ebony Hairbrush and her OTK Spanking Paddle.  She complied!
Cora included this OTK Paddle in my spanking

I must say that as I am writing this post I am not sitting comfortably.  I just received five minutes of Cora's Ebony Hairbrush and her OTK Spanking Paddle and she left me with a very red bottom with little white 'bull's eye' marks.

Although the Spanking Bench has been changed, this is about what I was faced with earlier this evening: Cora's Ebony Hairbrush
The result of the research seems to be positive.  Very Positive!  We both feel nicely charged up as a result and I have a great view of Cora's curvy Derriere while she is composing one of her awesome red bell pepper sauce that will eventually be served over pasta.  She is 'groovin' to the blues music we are listening to and watching her is really great eye candy.  Can you believe that 'I'm a Bad Boy', just came up on the radio?
I'll probably get spanked for posting this view of Cora but from comments I've received I'm not the only one in line to be spanked for looking at this view!
Even though its been a while since our last post, there have been a number of developments I want to share with you who have kept loyal to reading our blog.  This includes a new 'Spanking Bench' that works even better than the one we posted about way back in April.  More to come.  Cora has suggested we get the camera out to capture some of our new developments.

And a sincere thanks to those who have left comments.

May 31, 2014

Petticoating

Since I have written about our 'Notice of Discipline' form in our previous post and also uploaded a picture of it to my profile area of FetLife, I have received over a half dozen requests for copies.  There has also been a number of comments added to the picture of it on FetLife.  One of those comments really intrigued me.

The comment left by one young woman said, "Dare we ask what 'petticoating' is?"  Obviously she had looked closely at our Notice of Discipline form, specifically in the 'Discipline Recommendation' area of the form where one of the check box options is 'Petticoating'.

It appears that the term 'Petticoating' is just not used much any more.  In the early days of Nu-West, I had seen it referred to often.  In fact they offered a publication, "A Complete Guide To Petticoat Punishment" in their Catalog Number Four.  This Catalog was the first one I received from Nu-West and is one of my prized possessions.  It is interesting to note that this publication did not show in Nu-West Catalog Number Five or Six (that's as far as I looked).

A Scan of the Cover
On page 35 of Catalog Number Four is a description of the Complete Guide.  Included in the description is "A must for the dominant wife or girlfriend who discovers that SHE is in charge".  The price was a mere $5.95.  I purchased a copy.  I am not sure of the publication date of the Catalog but included on the page that described the Complete Guide is an announcement, "Publications Available October 1, 1982".  That sounds about right based on my memories.  But that makes it well over 30 years ago.  Oh, and as an insert to Catalog Number Four was an advertisement for 'Pamela Peterson's Punishment Panties'.  Note the caption, "Husband or boyfriend been a bad little boy?  Spank him soundly and then put him in these pretty punishment panties for the rest of the day."  Funny that there doesn't seem to be a price.  But it does seem that Petticoat Punishment was a big focus in the early days of Nu-West.

So I pulled my copy of the Complete Guide and read it once again.  It is a fascinating document to read and describes in great detail both Petticoat Punishment and how a woman should (or at least could) establish her dominance over her man.  The introduction indicated that Petticoat Punishment originated in the UK and Europe when many families employed 'Governesses' to look after the children.  It was when a popular instrument of correction was the rattan cane.  However as the book states, "A wise governess soon learned that using a can on some young boys only made them a hero in the eyes of the other children."  It seems that some of the more knowledgeable governesses would make some of their naughty male charges wear girls clothing for a period of time.  "The idea was that a young gentleman who had to attend tea dressed in satin slippers, white silk hose, petticoats, and a dress certainly would not feel like a hero." Thus the term 'Petticoat Punishment'.  The Complete Guide further states, "Perhaps after tea the governess would continue his punishment by placing him over her lap, baring his bottom and administering a sound spanking with a hairbrush. The other children, hearing the cries and pleas of the victim and witnessing the colorful effect of the paddling certainly had no desire to experience the same treatment themselves."

So I hope that explains Petticoat Punishment and a bit of its origins.  The book goes on to explain how a wife could 'Petticoat' her husband.  The recommendations are for at least three 'uniforms': one for the 'Serving Maid', another for the 'Working Maid' and finally the 'Punishment Uniform'.  There are also plenty of references on how to apply discipline, recommendations on spanking implements and even positions such as the classic Over-the-Knee and 'bend over and grab your ankles'.  In addition there are precautions on the application of corporal punishment but also, "A dose of corporal punishment should have dual effect.  It should be extremely painful while it is being applied and the area it was applied to should remain very tender for a period of time afterwards.  This tenderness serves as a lasting reminder of both the offense and the corrective action".

On the last page some conclusions are made including: "Domestic discipline as I have described it here is probably practiced in many more homes than you and I would ever guess".  "Always remember the key traits of a dominant woman.  She is firm but fair, strict, demanding, aloof and unyielding".  "And above all when that bare bottom is turned upside down across your knee waiting for the paddle or hairbrush don't disappoint him.  When you let him up his eyes should be wet with tears, his knees should be quivering and his bottom should be blistered- and I do mean blistered!"

I don't think I could have said it better!  Even though we have been promoting these ideas for several years now.  Note especially the words, "don't disappoint him" above.  When we boys are naughty we do want to be held accountable and suffer the consequences.  Its how we submissive men know we are both forgiven and loved.

So, does Cora 'Petticoat' me?  Well, we have experimented in it some but she has never checked the 'Petticoating' box on our form.  A few Halloween seasons ago we did find a 'French Maid' costume that fit me (at least then).  I have to admit that there is an erotic element when Cora makes me wear such things.  She even found a pair of women's shoes that fit me with slightly high but reasonable heels.  She even found a wig for me to wear (another Halloween find).
Wear These!
I don't like to feel that some of the things we employ 'humiliate' me.  I much prefer to consider that some of these things are the ways I express my submissiveness to her.  And for me it is very erotic.  And it doesn't work unless Cora initiates it.  I have recently chatted with a gentleman who really enjoys crossdressing.  I have seen pictures and he is amazing when dressed up and made up to look like a woman. However its not 'my thing'.  But I do enjoy it when Cora instructs me to wear her panties.  I guess I'm lucky in that I can fit in her panties and it makes it more special when its HER panties that she makes me wear.  And I do know plenty of guys who also share my excitement about our wives' panties and many also express an erotic desire to be made to wear them.  Of course, there is a reason I purchased the Complete Guide.  Would I like it if Cora stepped up her dominance through Petticoating?
Your Panties for the Night!
So I hope the above helps to explain things and also a little of the history (Herstory?) surrounding it.